ONE OF THE GOOD ONES

To all my single ladies, I just want to tell you to WAIT ON THE LORD. He will send “one of the good ones”. I speak from experience because sadly, I ‘cast my pearls before swine’ (Mat 7:6)’ but I praise God now I’m married to ONE OF THE GOOD ONES! Can I brag about my wonderful husband for a minute?

In February 2020 I had carpal tunnel surgery thereby temporarily losing the use of my right-hand. There’s a lot of things you can no longer do with one hand so my husband took care of me. He cooked for me, helped me get dressed, bathed and washed my hair. He even dried my hair and USED A FLAT IRON on it!! How many husbands would do that?

He was a God-send during my recovery, but while recovering I became sick with a terrible sinus infection, so recovery was longer than expected but he LOVED me anyway and took great care of me. I don't know what I would have done without him.

The effects from my hand lasted and Mike was always asking if he could open a can, jar or cut veggies for me since those tasks were still difficult, even a couple of months after surgery.

Mike recently wrote several poems and when I finally read them, I discovered he wrote one for me, with kind, loving words. That’s his poem, so I’ll let him share it, if and when he’s ready but what a blessing that was.

If you’ve read my book, Lord Of Our Emotions, then you know I never received the love of an earthly father and my experience with men was extremely negative. I truly believed a ‘good man’ was an oxymoron.

Satan told me I didn’t deserve love and would be alone for the rest of my life but HE IS A LIAR and to God be all the glory for the great things he has done!

Most recently something occurred that confirmed the depth of the love my husband, Mike, and I share. A depth of oneness I never thought possible.

I've collected spoon rests over the years and like to have plenty of them while cooking, but right now, the only ones I have are Christmas decorated and one ceramic that’s been glued back together. I really needed a new one.

Last week, Mike and I were with my Mom at Cracker Barrel for a meal and afterwards we shopped their country store and found a couple of items we agreed to purchase. Mike went to the counter to pay for the items, while I was still browsing with my Mom. While browsing, I discovered a spoon rest that I fell in love with. Since Mike was almost finished at the counter and I didn’t want to step in front of other waiting customers, I decided to wait at the back of the line and purchase the spoon rest myself.

You see, over the years, Mike erected many bird boxes on our property and several are specifically for blue birds. We’ve cheerfully watched blue birds in our backyard every year but this year, we had a pair nest in a box right outside our front window. We’ve sat in our swing at night and watched as they worked hard for weeks, preparing the nest and feeding their babies. We can even hear the babies chirp when mamma brings food. We watch the blue bird mother and father flying back and forth bringing food to the nest (and removing waste from the nest). What a beautiful, peaceful display of God’s creation and nature.

There were many different lovely spoon rests in the old country Cracker Barrel store that day but this one had a blue design with a blue bird perched on the handle, in a singing stance.... I knew I had to have it! It was a perfect representation of the beautiful family of blue birds we’d been watching and a reminder of our time spent together, bird watching. Something we both enjoy.

In the store, Mom and I stood in line with my spoon rest in my hand, waiting our turn to pay when Mike took his bag of items off the counter after paying and walked towards us.

I was happy to show him what I found. I held out the spoon rest and said, “Look how pretty, it has a blue bird on it and it’s only $5. I’m going to get this. Isn’t it great?”

Mike looked at me with a big grin on his face and said, “I know, I already bought one. I have one in my bag. I planned to surprise you with it.”

I know it’s a small, inexpensive item, but it’s the thought behind it and the realization that we were thinking in unison. It meant the world to me. I knew ours was two hearts beating together and God showing me that not only is God’s love true and pure, but that I could trust my husband’s heart too.

Mike knew I would love the spoon rest with the blue bird because it represented our special time together. It showed he knew me, loved me and wanted to give me the desire of my heart before I even asked and we were thinking alike. That’s a true representation of God’s love for us.

The time we spent together watching our beautiful blue birds meant as much to my husband as it had to me and we both wanted to commemorate it with something that could be a constant reminder that joy can be found in the simple things, even in the midst of tragedy (Spring 2020).

I could go on and on about Mike's sweet, calming spirit and servant's heart but if you've met him even once, you already understand.

So, back to my original point. Ladies please do not settle for less than God’s best. Mike and I have been married almost twelve years and you get to someone’s character after that amount of time, but I had a good idea of who he was when we married because I took years getting to know him and watching his walk with the Lord. Take your time to get to know the heart of a man by watching his actions before you give yourself away.

(Jer 29:11) For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
(Ps 37:34) Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.

NEVER DOUBT GOD and God bless you as you wait on him.